We use this inventory in a similar way to how we talk about values. Each person fills it out independently, then meets one-on-one to discuss where experiences align and where they differ. It’s a relational process that, when practiced well and within a safe container, transforms relationships. Here are the seven elements of the inventory.
Setting boundaries is making clear what’s okay and what’s not okay, and why
You do what you say you’ll do. At work, this means staying aware of your competencies and limitations so you don’t overpromise and are able to deliver on commitments and balance competing priorities.
You own your mistakes, apologize, and make amends.
You don’t share information or experiences that are not yours to share. I need to know that my confidences are kept, and that you’re not sharing with me any information about other people that should be confidential.
Choosing courage over comfort; choosing what’s right over what’s fun, fast, or easy; and practicing your values, not just professing them.
I can ask for what I need, and you can ask for what you need. We can talk about how we feel without judgment.
Extending the most generous interpretation to the intentions, words, and actions of others.