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Hi everyone,

I’m so excited to tell you about my latest daring adventure: COURAGEworks

As most of you know, I love teaching and I’m passionate about learning. It’s been my dream to create a place where we can come together to learn and have conversations (even the hard ones) about the issues that mean the most to us. 

COURAGEworks is that place.

It’s an online learning community that offers eCourses, workshops, and interviews developed for all of us who are committed to fully showing up in our lives – to being brave, leaning into vulnerability, and rumbling with the challenges that come with living a daring life.

During the courses, participants will roll up their sleeves for hands-on, interactive explorations of the work. In each lesson, I’ll guide you through reading assignments, lesson videos, exercise videos, and new ways to put the lessons into daily practices.

The video lessons are available on-demand, so you will be able to review them at a time that fits your schedule!

You can learn more about COURAGEworks at

And, right now you can use the coupon code MYTRIBE2015 to receive 20% off of the Living Brave semester! 
Can’t wait to see you in class,
And . . . if you have any suggestions about classes you’d like to see offered through COURAGEworks, leave your ideas in the comment section!

Manifesto of the Brave & Brokenhearted: The Rising Strong Book Trailer

Hey everyone!

T – 20 days until Rising Strong launches! My dear friend Travis Reed made this beautiful book trailer for me based on the manifesto I wrote for the the book. I love it so much and I’m excited about sharing it with you!

In other fun news, Rising Strong was just named on’s Best Books of the Month list!

Also, we’re getting lots of emails about the tour dates. Everything on the events page is updated with links (including a new 1.5 day workshop in London)!

Thank y’all for your support and encouragement. It means the world to me!

More to come!

The Most Dangerous Stories We Make Up

Screen Shot 2015-07-27 at 9.09.57 AMAs we enter the Rising Strong  launch countdown, I thought I’d share one of my favorite passages from the new book with you. Even though this is something I know in my head, it remains something I have to practice in my heart.

From Rising Strong:

The most dangerous stories we make up are the narratives that diminish our inherent worthiness. We must reclaim the truth about our lovability, divinity, and creativity

Lovability: Many of my research participants who had gone through a painful breakup or divorce, been betrayed by a partner, or experienced a distant or uncaring relationship with a parent or family member spoke about responding to their pain with a story about being unlovable—a narrative questioning if they were worthy of being loved.

This may be the most dangerous conspiracy theory of all. If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the past thirteen years, it’s this: Just because someone isn’t willing or able to love us, it doesn’t mean that we are unlovable.

Divinity: Research participants who shared stories of shame around religion had less in common than most people guess. No specific denomination has emerged as more shaming in my work; however, there is a strong pattern worth noting. Over half of the participants who talked about experiencing shame in their faith histories also found resilience and healing through spirituality.

The majority of them changed their churches or their beliefs, but spirituality and faith remain important parts of their lives. They believed that the sources of shame arose from the earthly, man-made, human-interpreted rules or regulations and the social/community expectations of religion rather than their personal relationships with God or the divine.

Our faith narratives must be protected, and we must remember that no person is ordained to judge our divinity or to write the story of our spiritual worthiness.

Creativity and Ability: In Daring Greatly, I write, “One reason that I’m confident that shame exists in schools is simply because 85 percent of the men and women we interviewed for the shame research could recall a school incident from their childhood that was so shaming that it changed how they thought of themselves as learners. What makes this even more haunting is that approximately half of those recollections were what I refer to as creativity scars. The research participants could point to a specific incident where they were told or shown that they weren’t good writers, artists, musicians, dancers, or something creative. This helps explain why the gremlins are so powerful when it comes to creativity and innovation.”

Like our lovability and divinity, we must care for and nurture the stories we tell ourselves about our creativity and ability. Just because we didn’t measure up to some standard of achievement doesn’t mean that we don’t possess gifts and talents that only we can bring to the world. Just because someone failed to see the value in what we can create or achieve doesn’t change its worth or ours.

The Rising Strong book launch is one month away and I’m straddling that familiar tension between excited and scared – it’s not easy putting your ideas or yourself out in the world. So, when I start making up dangerous stories, one of the things that keeps me going is knowing that in less than four weeks I’ll be on the road having great conversations with this community about what it means to rise strong. I hope to see you on the road!

You can pre-order Rising Strong here. 

Tour Update

Many of the events are sold out; however, a couple of organizers have recently moved to larger venues. There are also a few events that haven’t opened ticket sales yet. We’ve also just opened the London events. You can find more information on the book events here.

See you on the road!